Don't be Ashamed

I have already written about this topic (mood swings, PMS, etc). But I was compelled to write about it again. Frankly speaking, I didn’t know earlier that females have some kind of problem which affects them emotionally and they feel tired because of it. I had no idea not even a clue that something like this existed. So someone had to tell me that girls have issues which are specific to them.

I got to know about girly issues from my friend who is a girl. We both are good friends. But sometimes we used to fight over small issues. I used to ask her something (which coincidently happened to be on those days when she used to have her regular mood swings and this I came to know later when she told). So, during those conversations, she used to get angry and her replies were kind of not normal which used to make me angry. We used to fight for small things. This resulted in misunderstandings.  Later we both decided to meet and clear those misunderstandings. During the meeting, she asked me, “Do you know that girls experience some kind of hormonal imbalances and mood swings” I never knew anything about this so I replied, “I have no idea” She then started explaining to me as to what is it and in the process, she said, “How shamelessly I am telling about all this to a guy” She told that sometimes her angry replies were because of her mood swings and it was difficult to control her emotions. After that I realized that some of her “angry replies” were not intentional. It was truly an eye opener for me.

After my first blog about girl issues, PMS and my friend being ashamed to share it with me, I realized that there is nothing to ashamed of. It’s just the way females are born and its part of nature. But sadly, we have made this thing to look as shameful as one can think of. Forget about girls discussing about it with others, they can’t even tell about it. I don’t know whether girls discuss about these things among themselves freely, but I feel that girls should come forward and speak about this.

From a guy’s point of view, we never know what girls may be experiencing and how it’s gonna affect them unless someone tells us. For girls also, even though they are willing to tell about their issues, they might be compelled to not to do so wondering what others may including the person to whom they are gonna tell, think about them. When my friend told me that she will be very tired and emotionally sensitive during those times I felt bad. Now since I know it, I will be careful as to not to speak in anger mood and try to be calm when she is going through one of her mood swings.

I have humble request to make to all the girls who feel ashamed of themselves when they want to talk about their issues. You have not done any crime. It’s just that the society has branded something as bad to talk without using any common sense. There is nothing wrong in talking about and one should feel free to talk about it. If my friend had not told or rather not discussed about this with me, I probably would not have known. It’s perfectly ok to talk about it and the more we talk about this openly the more better it is and we all can make the world a better place to live. By sharing these things you are doing a great favour to yourself and to all the other girls. Girls should tell their guy friends with whom they are comfortable with, about what they are going through and I am sure guys will understand. I know it’s not easy but sometimes you have to get out of your comfort zone to change things. So, don’t be ashamed of who you are and what you are.

Keep Smiling,
Prashanth.