Life and its Duties

This blog is about my friend’s friend. Life was good to her and she is a chirpy, talkative girl who always has something to talk about ….be it her hair, mom-in-law, mom, husband, work, etc. She had topics on her finger tips. She has been married since two years now and she is a home maker wanting to pursue her career in the IT industry. Well till now everything seems normal isn’t it….??

One day in the morning she realized she was pregnant, inspite of repeatedly testing it, the result was positive. It is obvious that for any girl this would be a momentous occasion to feel happy and she rushes towards the phone to call her husband and tell him the good news because she feels he deserves to know first.

She puts the receiver down and has no clue how to feel and what has to be done next. Her husband’s reaction was indifferent and calm and he refused to discuss the issue further until he gets back home from work.

Finally it’s 5 in the evening and her husband appears to be very tired and he tells her that the child has to be aborted since they have no sufficient funds to raise the child. Not that they have any financial crisis, but it's just that they cannot afford a child right now. I was shocked to hear this. I didn’t know how to react when I first heard it. Even though I (being a guy) may not exactly understand how she felt, but I can relate to her pain.

She would have never opted for it, but had to abort the child because she had to consider her husband’s feelings towards the whole issue. Obviously both their families were unaware of the issue and I guess it’s better to not to let them know, alteast in the short term. Her mom in law right now wants to have a grandchild and she is pestering her for a grandchild. She cannot really explain anything to anyone because of who she is as a person and also because of the fact that she is not just a daughter to her parents now but, someone’s wife and daughter in law as well. I am a firm believer in the thought that, whatever happens, happens for good and I guess this was meant to happen, that’s why it happened.

Sometimes we cannot be who we really are because of all the social constraints and because of the all the duties life has to offer us. Sometimes we have to compromise and forget who we really are and try to fulfill our duties towards people we are related to .Sometimes we have to do things which we never dreamt of doing it. Sometimes life takes you by surprise and you never what will be your next course of action. Sometimes we do what we have to unwillingly and then the memory still haunts us.

Sometimes we wonder what right do we have to take away someone else’s life? Also, we wonder why did we actually do what we did? ……we never find answers to these questions inspite of thinking about it a million times.

Sometimes you know that you are guilty? But the fact remains that the child is gone forever, a child who never got an opportunity to see this beautiful world. A child whose life was snipped and she will never ever be the same again. This memory of a child will haunt her till the rest of her life and she will always regret it for the days to come. I hope and pray that she can get over this.

I thank my friend for sharing this with me, it was an eye opener. I always like to look at the positive side of things. So when my friend told this to me, I thought to myself,

‘Even though I have problems of my own, but my problem seems so small and teaches me to live happily because someone else is facing a much bigger problem than mine…..’


PS: This blog would not have been possible if my friend had not shared it. Majority of the blog was written by my friend and I contributed some. It was an eye opener for me. Thanks to her...:)